Manifesting with Willingness

I want to get into a concept that has been popping up all over the place and a tool that can facilitate a well rounded end product. I’m talking about manifestation and willingness.

Nicole explores why manifesting is incomplete without willingness on the blog to help creative entrepreneurs.

Willingness

It’s a superpower that leads to effectiveness in every capacity. It is the single skill that has changed everything in my own life, and I so badly want others to understand! I am talking about your

willingness to try,
willingness to change your patterns,
willingness to do different,
willingness to learn,
willingness to ask for help,
willingness to question, act, grow,
and your willingness to be seen.

That last one is huge! In the realm of business ownership, being seen is so hard. Social media tends to be a highlight reel that misses the mark on authenticity; people sharing for visibility, but not exactly connecting in any real way. For many, actually being seen is incredibly scary. Truth be told, I’m afraid of being seen most days.

Anyone else wish we could just do good work and people would find us? Apparently, that’s not how businesses work if you want to actually make money. Which brings me to the other buzzword that I have been struggling with.

Manifestation

Anyone else see this word all over the place? Do you know what it means? Do you engage in manifestation practices?

At first, I wrote it off as a lot of woo. Something so metaphysical that had no place in my emotional need for logic and facts. I have felt so much shame, both justified and not, because I want things to make sense in the here and now. Come to find out, emotion can carry just as much weight in any argument.

Willingness inside of manifesting require a radical shift in how we evaluate our emotions - they are factual information.

As I delved into healing and my mental health landscape, I came to learn and understand that feelings are actually factual information. So I took a harder look at this manifestation thing.

Manifesting is to project who we want to be in the future, on our current life situation.

It is more than “fake it till you make it.” It is a show-up, dress the part, ask questions, process, produce, and repeat kind of situation - all while believing, wholeheartedly, that you have already reached your destination.

With this understanding, I came up against another block or issue with the whole manifestation concept. Everyone seems to only talk about vision, declarations, desires, intent, and even vibration. “Stay positive” is a common rule. Nothing about the middle elements, the less than pretty parts. These explanations seemed to leave out the feelings and emotions. Important facts of being human. Not to mention the healing that often has to take place in order to really shift and make habit changes.

Manifestation, in my opinion, is at least 50% incomplete without feelings, emotions, and questions. What is better, I believe manifestation actually allows space and permission for shame that may arise, your emergence from hiding, learning to love yourself through your ups and downs, and being able to be present even though you want to run. Your willingness to live the process, feel the fear and find your path, is vital to your growth. It is not all positive self-talk, daily affirmations, and self-care. There is work to be done emotionally and physically to leverage your best self.

Your Capacity

In my opinion:

manifestation is our willingness to see ourselves in a capacity of creation and taking up space that was otherwise thought not meant for you.

That seems simple and yet it can be incredibly complex. If you are struggling with this word, concept, movement, and feel it has no place for you, I see you friend! I have been there!

Your willingness to look inward, sit with whatever comes up, and share your process is up to you. You get to decide what it all means. You get to plan and adjust your life and your messaging. The best part - it is never too late to ask questions, adapt beliefs, and cultivate new patterns! Which is super exciting!'

A Reminder

As entrepreneurs, leaders, creatives, and visionaries, our egos LOVE to push us into hiding so we can stay safely in our respective comfort zones. Think about your list of excuses or reasons for procrastination. Naturally, we run from anything and everything we perceive will make us different. This is often why it’s easy to be visible, but not as easy to be seen.

I dare you to push back!

My questions to you as you sit in front of your work:

  • What do you not want people to find out about you and what does that feel like?

  • What narrative is running in your head that is preventing you from your dream?

  • Are you willing to sit still to learn from yourself?

I’m not asking you these things with intent for you to fix anything or find a solution. I’m asking you to check into yourself, learn, see, question, and grow with what you find. Journal it out. Be honest with yourself.



I can’t wait to see you expand into your life worth living.


A Relocation, Introspection + Pivot

If you follow me on social media in any capacity you already know that my family and I have moved halfway across the country to Manhattan, Kansas. Affectionately known as the Little Apple. You may also know my affinity for reflecting on my life and sharing the ups and downs with honesty. What you may not know, is that I will be pivoting my business after a lot of personal self development.

What does that even mean?

First a little back story - last year I went through an intense training program focused on dialectic behavior to lean into, heal, and learn to cope with various mental health diagnoses. It was a long year, a quiet year on the business front, and incredibly productive in defining who I am as Nicole Burmeister - before the labels of photographer, creative, teacher, wife, mother, or business owner got thrown in. I will be honest, last February I was incredibly lost and in a very dark place. I had no idea how to untangle what I wanted for myself from what others wanted from me. Relying on my fear of failure to guide my anxiety induced research binges, I became an expert on various topics of business ownership, birth, photography, etc, etc.

No More!

This past year I have realized I have so much information and knowledge within me. I have said “no” to seeking more instruction because deep down I was really looking for that particular teacher to validate a checklist of tasks. Now, I realize this was due to my inability to validate my own work and progress. So last year turned into a year of saying yes to myself! Affirming and patting my own back has taught and allowed me to actually see and feel my strengths. With this new knowledge I have come to understand how much of what I have built so far as the person behind Nicoleinbold has been a bit hollow. In 2017 I even began to see this hollowness in my work which manifested into a pit within my stomach.

Don’t get me wrong.

I love photography. I love birth. I adore my clients. My hang up was in the tedious behind the scenes mechanics to making it all work in conjunction with motherhood and my inability to truly voice what was on my heart for the seemingly irrational fear of wondering what people would think of me if I actually shared hard truths and big thoughts - I didn’t even have the skills to see myself much less the willingness to be seen by others. A massive run-on sentence - I know - it is a transplant of the overwhelm I used to feel! It is a wild landscape - navigating mental health.

I found help. I made changes. We moved. I am officially pivoting.

I am whole now. I am excited about life and motherhood, and my business. I didn’t set out to make this big of a shift, however I am proud of myself for slowing down enough to realize my wants, needs, and strengths.

I am officially pivoting.

Nicoleinbold is now offering seo services, website design, and coaching to small and creative business owners in Manhattan, Kansas and beyond.

I am ready to lean into my strengths to help others holistically build a sustainable digital ecosystem. I want to use my vast knowledge of graphic design, web design, search engine optimization (SEO), and my years as a photographer learning about workflows, content creation, and client management to the desk of other small business owners. All these parts make up the digital presence of business’. Knowing how they work individually and as a unit is my strength.

More specifically, I am now offering services that include SEO audits, SEO implementation, One Week Web Designs, Dubsado setups, and a comprehensive service to wildly root your business for success.

Each service has been carefully crafted and I couldn’t be more excited to collaborate with entrepreneurs, leaders, creatives and visionaries. No more piecing together fragments of information and late night DIY implementations that ultimately loose you sleep, create holes with your clients, and leave you dazed inside of your family.

My goal and passion is for you to create a sustainable business whether you want to build in white space and contentment, you want to scale up and grow your empire, or anything in between. I want to nurture you to boldly own your business rather your their business owning you!

Oh and don’t worry.

While I am scaling way back with my photography, I am in the process of diving into personal projects and narrowing down ways that I can giveback. After all, I am still passionate about the power of seeing your real life frozen in time and printed! I’m simply shifting my business to guide other business owners toward taking their lives back from the frazzle that can be entrepreneurship.

Accept Radically + Change Your Perspective

To live your life
You must accept yourself

My daughter giving herself a pep talk and radically accepting she is her own super hero in her own way. So important for creative entrepreneurs to realize that acceptance comes from within.

Radical Acceptance

Every human has a script running their mind. Thoughts and memories, burdens and maybe trauma from our life that keep us in line, so to speak. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what you dream of, if you’re an introvert or an extrovert, or your level of education; it is our human-ness that propels us forward or keeps us stuck. This human-ness, our ability as women, creatives, business owners, and mothers to be so full of self imposed rules, also means we can flip our script, change our perspective and take control to live our best life.

I don’t know about you, but I suffer a lot from internal judgement, real life, negative self talk, and even impostor syndrome. All these things can weigh us down and trick us into thinking many things about ourselves and the lives we have made. Comparison and envy anyone? What most of us don’t put thought to is that script running in our mind is full of false statements and half truths. Even further, those thoughts are ripe and ready to be challenged by you!

I read a quote the other day that a dear friend shared,

“You need to believe in yourself. You need to have crazy, unshakable, nearly irrational faith that you can do whatever you set your mind to.”

When I read this my first thought was, “HELL YEAH!” In the past, my next natural reaction to reading quotes like this used to be envy and even some guilt. If I’m being super honest, I would get angry. It was easy to shake my head declaring this notion not for me. AND I could come up with every reason NOT to believe in myself. Do you do this too?

I catch myself now when I have the urge to dig my heels in and hope you will begin to catch yourself after reading this blog post. See, I have been studying and practicing the mindfulness art of radical acceptance. Some call this flipping the script, but it is more than that! A succinct definition from Psychology Today says, “radical acceptance means completely and totally accepting something from the depths of your soul, with your heart and your mind. You stop fighting reality. When you stop fighting you suffer less.” Reading the words, it sounds great, maybe even easy, but as we all know words are much easier than action!

Before going further I want to make something clear:

Radical acceptance does not mean passivity or even approval of what you are facing!

Another way of looking at radical acceptance is saying, “I don’t like it, it may not be fair, AND there is a way forward.” It is the art of making choices for yourself, independent of others.

This mindfulness skill is wildly challenging for me! If you’re anything like me, I’m sure you’re thinking something along the lines of, “that’s great, but one doesn’t just shift their thinking.” Or maybe your shaking your head thinking of all the reasons, excuses, and judgements of how this can’t be true. I have so been there!! I have had to radically accept big and small things in the past 9 months (living in Richmond for the foreseeable future, owning the label stay at home mom, adjusting my business to better suit me and my family, etc.) It has been hard, change is hard, and it is worth it to be seen and heard within ourselves.

I want to give you an example. Last year I struggled harder than I ever have with my mental health. I was fighting internally with what I thought my life would look like versus what was happening around me. I struggled with my new role inside my family, and struggled with my work. I wasn’t doing and making to my standards. The negative self talk was incredibly loud and always present! In the end, I had to radically accept that I was in fact a stay at home mom who worked. I had to radically accept that I am not a traditional workforce woman. I had to radically accept that I was being incredibly unkind to myself. Sure there are reasons, copious excuses that I employed to keep myself small and stuck. The facts though were clear. I wanted to be a creative entrepreneur. I love photography, design, and mentoring. I also wanted to be present in my daughter’s life. I wanted to go on adventures, learn to cook, and be open to learning, art, and service to others with her by my side.

These facts were definitely not in line with myself judgement. I lacked compassion for myself, even though it flowed freely for others.

After becoming aware of my shame, I had to really sit through the emotions of how my life had gotten to this point. Sit through the emotions of challenging my awful self talk. Now this isn’t a one and done exercise. It is a process, heck some days it feels like a full on marathon! There are days I catch myself back in the negative script. When I notice I always stop and observe, check the facts and practice accepting again. Once I accepted my role as a stay at home working mom, I was able to plan and see ahead all the fun and exciting things that awaited for our family!

I also want to point out that radical acceptance is not confined to “less than desirable” things in our life. We too have to accept that we are worthy, that our life, story, and perspective matter. So if you are struggling with charging your worth, marketing your service or product, or owning a new path you want to take in life, this is an amazing tool!

8 Steps to Radical Acceptance:

  1. Observe what you are questioning or fighting internally and externally. “I should be,” or “this shouldn’t be” are great indicators of an internal battle.

  2. Check the facts of your situation. Really look at the reasons or excuses you telling yourself that have you feeling stuck. Be honest while sticking to the facts rather than coloring the information with emotive language!

  3. Check the causes of your reality. This is similar to the above. Here we are looking at the events that led to our thoughts and beliefs. Are there facts and a specific timeline that contributed to your current state?

  4. Practice accepting with your whole self (mind, body, and spirit). This may take time and that is 100% allowed. You can practice by using positive self talk, prayer, going to a place that helps you accept yourself, and even  talking with trusted friends. If you need additional help, I am a huge advocate of therapy. An outside perspective can be incredibly invaluable when we are feeling stuck. You may also gain a lot from a mentor, depending on your situation and truths.

  5. This one is huge! Practice opposite action. Write out how you would live your life if everything was different, if you accepted your reality. I”m serious, don’t just say it in your head. Actually write what would change, what you would do, how you might be different. Then act as if those things were already happening, engage in behaviors as if you have already accepted life as you would like it! This ultimately calls to the “fake it until you make it” mantra, which always felt icky to me in the past. Now I understand much better and hope you do too!

  6. This one is also super important! Cope ahead so you don’t get stuck. Maybe you have begun doing all of this work but have to go see a friend or family member who maybe less receptive or you know you struggle with negative self talk at certain times of the day or year, rehearse in your mind what you can do now or then if you accepted what seems or feels unaccepted.

  7. Attend to body sensations, because this is a whole body acceptance. As you think about what you want/need to accept allow emotions to come and go and be aware of where you hold tension.

  8. Acknowledge life is worth living even through the struggle, through the process. If you are still resisting, try doing pros and cons of making changes versus staying the same.

This may take time. You may realize you have to radically accept a bunch of small bits of reality before you can tackle something larger. You may also, like me, realize you have to accept uncertainty before moving forward with other tasks and life circumstances. Again, I want to say that radical acceptance does not mean you are in love with life, it doesn’t mean you approve of everything either. It is, however, the first step in choosing to own your life, making choices to do/be different, or find a better way through your current season of life.

I want to leave you with this: acceptance is the recognition of where the power lies. It is a matter of choice, how we expend our energy. I hope you can take back your energy to find and define your version of success. You matter in your life!



What's in a Name

I wrote a version of this explanation a few years ago, and after some thoughts, revelations, and a few people asking me, "what does Nicoleinbold mean," I have decided to update and rewrite my answer. If you have followed me for any length of time I am sure you have noticed a change in my work. If you are more perceptive, I am sure you have noticed a change in what I share and what I say. With these changes, I have noticed an evolution in who I believe I am. I have grown, matured, softened, and been through many life changes since the beginning of Nicoleinbold, but I'll start at the beginning.

Coming up with a business name is not always easy. Just like naming a child, you go through many options before you decide and then change it again one more time…and again. Trying not to ask for too many opinions because that can always through a wrench into the mix.

Nicoleinbold came about when I was soul searching . "Who am I?" "What do I want to be remembered for?" "How do I want to help and serve others?" I started with the idea that I am me. Profound, I know. Many photographers use their own name as their business name, and I wanted to take that a step further. 

Sure this business is mine, but I serve others. What I create, produce, and share is ultimately not about me. Then I moved to the belief that I am the artist. While I depict others, it is my past, present, and future, my perspective that drives me to press my shutter button. I am showing how I see and feel about other peoples' lives. You can see it in how I compose my work and how I process and stylize my final images.

Your life - my perspective.

In explaining this recently to a friend, she pushed me further, "yeah, but why bold? I know you are creative, spontaneous, and silly - is that what you mean?" This is a great question, and one that embodies my life more than I ever realized when I chose my name almost 5 years ago.

The bold-ness, if you will, come from a few things which all boils down to my hopes, dreams, and even fears I feel for you, me, and our families. There is a bold-ness in saying I will take a piece of equipment and make a picture. There is more bold-ness involved when I feel strongly that when I make a picture I am sharing your love for life and your love for your family with you. The bold-ness continues to grow when I state that I highlight your love, connection, curiosity, and fears with every frame I capture.

I understand this can sound pretentious. Believe me when I say I feel a bit of shame for feeling so passionately about other's lives. This shame comes from feeling like I shouldn't care. From being told I shouldn't care most of my life. My current transformation is leaning into these "shoulds" and fully accepting my role as someone who loves my own family and wanting to preserve the love in others' families.

I have never considered myself an empath or highly sensitive person, until recently. It actually took a therapist to break this news, and then me telling a couple of my closest friends, who wholeheartedly agreed, to even accept this fact about myself. I feel emotions deeply. I perceive other's emotions very well and feel them deeply on top of my own. I share this because it is the most recent "ah-ha" moment about the name I have chosen for my business.

As I journey through life I have questioned my purpose. Most recently I have been unsure if I wanted to continue to pursue being a photographer. It wasn't until I was asked what my name means, what I hope to provide the people and families I work with that I became confident in my own legacy. After everything you have read it might not be a surprise to you, but it was to me. When I was asked this question these words tumbled from my mouth, "I want to transform vulnerability into confidence." Phew! That is bold.

So now what does that mean?

The goal I work to achieve with each shutter release is to highlight your humanity, your love, and your connection to those around you. It is vulnerable to ask someone into your life and to take your picture. Many people don't see it this way anymore because so many people own some type of camera, but it is scary. All of our insecurities can creep in. I hope that when I am asked into your life, into your home, that I can transform those insecurities into confidence. No matter if you are insecure in your body image, how you parent, what it looks like inside your home, I want to document your life right now. Show you it's beauty. Give you permission to be yourself. SEE yourself how others see you. How your children see you, and will remember you when they are older.

In owning this name I have created for my business, to include all the revelations there after, and having been present for many families, I can tell you with confidence that you are AMAZING. You are doing way better than you think you are. Your presence in this world is a gift. You are more than a mom, a dad, a wife or a husband. You are you, and your story matters.

It is simple. A clean statement. A concise and profound core value.

I am Nicoleinbold.

Nicoleinbold is documentary family photography with a promise to give you confidence serving Richmond, Virginia and available for travel.

Birth Photographer Mindfulness

"Three rules of work:
out of clutter find simplicity.
From discord find harmony.
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

Albert Einstein


The world is filled with dialectics. If this is a new word, as it was to me this year, it simply means that there are often two or more ways to view things in life. This Albert Einstein quote displays this flawlessly. What is doesn’t display is how hard it can be to be aware of more than one side when we are in the midst of high emotions, opinionated thinking, or kind of stuck in our ways. Some call this black and white thinking. Where we a doggedly determined to see and believe only one right and one wrong. I don’t know about you but I have learned that life just plain isn’t this way, especially in the realm of birth. Sure, more often than not there is labor and there is delivery. However, the methods, means, locations, providers and ultimately the stories are all different.

Being open to these differences is the beginning of mindfulness. I’ll get into this more through this article. Now that I explained briefly what dialectics are, and before I go further, I want to bring to light a dialect that motives our thoughts and actions. We each possess a reasonable mind and an emotional mind, the center being wise mind. This is something I am learning from Marsha Linehan’s teaching in dialectic behavior. I promise this is not “woo-woo.” Well it might be a little bit, but for good reason. Wise mind is ultimately where we must stand as professional birth photographers, more so than any other genre.

Excerpt from  Marsha Linehan’s workbook,  DBT Skills Training

Excerpt from Marsha Linehan’s workbook, DBT Skills Training

If you’re a birth photographer, please keep reading.

Most birth photographers, myself included, are in this profession because we believe in birth. We are an advocate of the process, of the people, and want everyone to have options and education. Which means most of us are also educated in the process of birth. This is great. This shows passion for our work. Knowledge and advocacy is often an integral part in our why behind our business. It’s why and how we can leave our families any time of night or in the middle of that birthday-dance recital-graduation event.

Motivation and passion aside, I am a staunch believer in we must drop the advocacy lens (no pun intended) when we walk into the birth space. We are not an advocate while we are present for our clients, as a photographer. This can be insanely hard! Not only do we have to halt advocacy externally, but it is necessary to halt advocacy internally as well.  If we don’t separate ourselves from the events we are documenting, our perspective (we’re the one with the camera) will be radically colored by how ever life unfolds. Let me explain.

Very simply, our brains, thoughts, and actions (past and present) affect our perspective, how we document, and even what we document. This can be both good and bad. Remember that chart from above. If we live in an emotional state, where are feeling of events become fact, can you imagine how your creativity may change? You may not get as close to your clients. You may create obstacles like keeping things in between you and your clients. You may also get stuck in one area of a room as your curiosity shuts down. Has this ever happened to you? For a few minutes? Maybe an entire birth session? Maybe you didn’t notice until you got home and began looking through your images. I have been here! I have also seen this in other’s portfolios.

On the opposite side if we live in a rational state, where logic and rules run our mind we may lose the story line or miss a shot. I have been here as well. Where I get stuck in my head about the rules of photography, and anticipating the physiological process of birth I miss emotional elements. Again, this might happen for a few minutes, the entire birth, and we might not ever notice it.

Now I want to point out a very important point. There is nothing wrong with being overly rational or overly emotional at any given moment. There are very real scenarios where one side must be dominant for our survival. However, I truly believe that when we are documenting or telling someone else’s story, our goal would be best lived in the center, wise mind.  I’m not going to lie, “wise mind” sounds pretentious. It doesn’t have to be! This is simply a place of awareness. This is where we are open to feeling our feelings and those around us (empathy), as well a being mindful of rules, processes, and all the technicalities that we must be aware of while in any given birth space. This centered place, the balance, is where we accomplish life and work.

Want real life scenarios of this in action?

Into the birth space, with camera in hand: I walk in with all of my knowledge and specific viewpoints on people and potential interventions. I’m an empath as most of us photographers are, so I can very easily get caught in my emotions AND the emotions of everyone in the room. I am finding it incredibly easy to get worried about how everything is progressing (or not). Keep in mind this can start before we even enter the room. Maybe our kid was sick at home, or the dog pooped on the floor just as you were leaving, or you had trouble finding parking after sitting in unexpected traffic. Now I’m listening to how a nurse says something or what options were given (or not). I’m somehow getting more upset than my client that the birth plan isn’t going according to plan, so I begin to miss shots. Perfection sets in. Perfection for  the birth plan, perfection for capturing the moment just so, where to stand, over anticipating, and just plain over thinking and emotionally involved in every detail.

Remember, none of this is because I’m a bad photographer or because I don’t understand the physiological process of birth. Rather it is because I have my beliefs and views on how birth should go, my preconceived advocacy and researched knowledge, and I’m letting those thoughts fill me with emotion that is distracting me from doing my job. Which is to document my client’s birth story.

Further the more we get into this emotional state, without pulling ourselves back we can very much create an unsafe environment. We may stop being aware of our surrounds, stop anticipating movement in the room. All of which may lead to poor etiquette in front of providers and our clients. Being unaware of your surroundings means you might bump the sterile field, not anticipate your environment, etc. It can even be a bad decision like grabbing a chair to stand on or getting in the way of the medical staff.

Have you been in the head space? I know I have! Did you notice it as it was happening? After you got home? Are you just now thinking of your body of work and how this may have an effect?

I hope I can help you in this article just as much as I have brought this concept to your attention. I’m doing my best to be transparent with you. It is not easy to be in wise mind, or pull yourself out of a spiral of thoughts in the moment. My goal is to have you reflect and grow. I can look back at my work and see it very clearly where my judgements, perfectionism, and “shoulds” got in the way of me getting closer, stepping back, and capturing the in between moments because I was so stuck on what was happening to someone else. Events that I in all reality, I can’t control. Wise mind tells me that I can’t control my client’s situation. Wise mind also tells me that I was paid to do a job and do it well. To be present and aware, but to focus on the connection through each decision and moment within the birth space.

How do you do this? How do you create white space, openness, mindfulness to help center yourself during times of stress?

I’ve recently begun employing mindfulness tools in my everyday life and found it extremely helpful at my last couple of births. The first and best option, if your situation will allow it, is to give yourself a break outside of the room. If the pace of the birth allows, it is more than okay to spend a few minutes in the waiting room. Go to the bathroom. Fill up your water bottle. Giving yourself physical distance can be enough to bring you to center.

The next best technique is learning to control my breathing. The in and the out breaths, when under pressure we typically breath fast and our thoughts move through our consciousness fast as well. When we can control our breath and even recall a few mantras, we can center our being and get back to our art. The best part is know one has to know what you are doing! After all, we all breathe, right?! Here are some of the things I have told myself in the birth space:

Inhale: You are here to observe. Exhale: Relax/You got this
Inhale: You were paid for a service. Exhale: Shoot with intention
Inhale: This is not my story. Exhale: I am the storyteller
Inhale: Their emotions  Exhale: are not my emotions

Do you have any mantras or sayings when emotions get high while you work? Do you find you revisit the emotions again while you edit? Use the same mantras, talk a walk. If you continue to have trouble, struggle to center yourself before, during or after a birth, I encourage you to find a trusted peer to discuss your experiences with. Everything I have said is great to practice and do, but at times we need additional help. So while you practice mantras and breathing in your everyday life also create a list of people you can reach out to when you need additional assistance (fellow birth photographer, doula, best friend, etc.).

Last, but not least.

I want to be very clear. You are allowed to have your values. You are allowed to have opinions. You are allowed to feel and have emotions. I am not telling anyone to stop any of this! I’m simply pointing out that if we let our mind take over, if we get stuck in advocacy, we will get lost, forget, or poorly document all the life happening in front of  us. I promise you, having been there, you are not serving from a balanced place. There are times I want to hold hands, dole out hugs, and even feel like I’m intruding with each shutter release, this is normal and at times expected. I am asking you to be aware of all of this and how it changes your perspective in your storytelling of another families life. Above all else, don’t let your judgement or emotions rob you of the artistry you are known for.